Thursday, July 31, 2008

End of Summer Struggle

I just finished looking at pictures and reading the updates from our Mexic08 team. I accidently got a little carried away on one of my comments but it is a subject that has come up every summer I've worked with students. We use to call it "I don't want to go home" syndrome when I was working at camp.

About the morning of the fifth day of a week long camp or mission trip, you start to hear students talking about how they don't want to go home. For some it is the fact they don't want to leave the friends they only see at camp. For some it is the fact that life at home is hard. For many it is that they don't know what to do with the changes God is doing in their lives.

I remember being the same way when I was younger. I was at a high school week of camp and I said to one of my family leaders that I didn't want to go home. His response has stuck with me. I wrote it in my journal and refer back to it almost every summer.
"You know sometimes I think that is exactly what Satan loves to hear. It is easy to live for Christ when you are at camp, at a youth conference, or anywhere you are surrounded by people who are following Christ. But if we were to all stay here, who will tell others about Jesus? Who will share with those at home what we love about this place?"
It is easier to live your life centered on Christ when you are surrounded by people who are doing that same. It is even easier when your whole day focuses on studying, learning, worshiping, serving and breathing Jesus. That is exactly what happens at camp and on mission trips. The reality is that you are changed after a week long experience like that and the home you are returning to might not have changed at all. I think that is the root of the problem.

For the past few years, I've been intentional about helping students understand that and prepare to face the return home. I don't know how helpful these have been for others but some of them have been very helpful to me.
  1. Journal about the changes God is doing in your life, especially any commitments you've made, and refer back to it through out the school year. It can be easy to slide back into the old you and forget about commitments you have made.
  2. Find some accountability. Yea it is a big word but really all it means is find someone who is willing to walk the journey with you. Someone who can lift you up and encourage you when you get down. Someone who can push you when you start to lose your focus.
  3. Continue to surround yourself with people who are walking the same direction. I've had a significant number of students who tell me they don't go to church or attend youth group during the school year. The journey was not intended to walked alone. I've tried it. Doesn't work! Plug into a church family where you can be refueled and serve together.
  4. Don't stop your quiet times once camp/the mission trip is over. Even if you've never done a quiet time outside of one of these settings, continue the discipline when you get home. Will it be hard? Probably. Set a realistic goal for yourself, ones that stretch you but are attainable. Set aside the specific time in you schedule just like you do at these events. Be patient with yourself.
Like I said, I don't know if any of that will help you but it gives you a starting point. Allow God to continue to change you. Those changes might just be what he uses to change the people and the environment you return home to at the end of the week.

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Uncertainty

Earlier this evening I got a little frustrated with myself. After spending some time with God I got in my car and started driving. I haven't done that in a long time since gas is so much.

I had some cards I hadn't mailed to friends at camp so I decided to drive them up.I know mailing it would have been cheaper but you can have some great conversations with God on that drive. I've done it many times.

It was exactly what I needed. I don't like the uncertainty of this next month. School is starting. Big changes in our student ministry. Lots of things happening on the home front.

Every day I learn to lean in a little further as I talk with God. I'm praying no matter what comes my way I'll have the strenghth to face it head-on.

"The light shines through darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it." John 1:5

I love food!

I was going to post about this last night but decided to wait until I could post pictures since some of you asked about my Facebook status.

Yesterday I went grocery shopping, which can be rather depressing since I'm allergic to wheat. The cost was depressing but the finds were amazing! Lately Meijer has been carrying more and more wheat-free food, which means it is cheaper than a health food store. Here is a look at part of this week's shopping list.




Spelt Bread...$4.19











Spelt Bagels...$4.89





I also went to the Health Food store to try and find some Wheat-free Goldfish Crackers. I didn't find any but I found something even better!



WHEAT-FREE WAFFLE CONES!!!!!!
$8.49





I haven't had a waffle cone or any ice cream cone since I found out I couldn't eat wheat. I ate one last night as soon as I got home from the store with my favorite ice cream, Mackinaw Island Fudge. It was amazing!!!!

I love food!

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Can you speak about relationships?

The topic I get asked to speak or teach about the most is relationships. Sometimes it is relationships in general and sometimes it is specifically about guy-girl relationships. Those of you who know me well are already on the ground rolling in laughter. I am in no way an expert in this area or even claim to have a little bit of insightful wisdom. So why it is the number one subject I get asked about I have no clue.

Since I got back from Chicago last week I've had a good handful of facebook messages, e-mails and conversations about the topic. One of those messages was from a former camper who has now been asked to speak about it with some middle school and high school girls. She wanted to know about some resources I use. I decided I would share one with you that has been surprisingly helpful.

I thought it was ridiculously silly at first but this little tool my friend Emily gave me has come in very handy. She uses it with the college students in her ministry. The bottom half are things for guys and girls to keep in mind as they pursue relationships. Allison was kind enough to post this on her blog so I could post it here. She has lots of great insights on this topic as well.

I've always wondered why marriage was represented with a submarine but oh well. It seems a little odd to me. You may find this helpful. You might not. Either way, enjoy!

Monday, July 28, 2008

Party Week

This is a week full of parties and I love it!

Last night I went over to the wonderful Baker resident for Kristin's birthday party. It was a blast. I especially enjoyed watching Ben and Vanessa feed the swans. Ben loved every minute of it. The biggest swan loved him.

Tonight two of our students from GCC, Shelby and Austin, are celebrating their birthdays at Hacienda. I love those two and I love Hacienda. This is going to be great.

Tomorrow night there might be a girls night with some friends from college. That is guaranteed to be a blast. I have to check my schedule on that one. I'm afraid there might be something I'm over looking. I hope not!

BUT...Friday night is when the big party happens!!!! My niece, Amanda, is celebrating her 10th birthday today. We are having a party to celebrate Friday night. I bought her present today and am very excited about it. Hopefully she will too. And then after we have stuffed ourselves with amazing food and feel like we are going to explode, will kick the party up a notch. My niece, Heather, accepted Christ at camp last week and is going to be baptized. It is going to be a special night for both of them.

I'm so pumped just thinking about it. I'll be screaming and shouting all night. I told Amanda I was going to sing at the party non-stop. She was okay with it so I'll probably be without a voice once again this summer! What a great week!!!!!